Facebook; and being there for others.

1) Bye bye Facebook – trying to phrase this as positive as possible! Recently, I’d noticed more and more political or religious rants/posts/debates appearing on Facebook, photos of animal abuse, rape discussions, and general negativity, and quite frankly it was starting to upset me & get me down. I was starting to dread logging in & scrolling through endless photos of grumpy cat, rants about the Conservative party, endless discussions about the state of Britain, welfare & benefits… People on their soapboxes rightly upset about things that matter to them. That’s fine, but you know what? Facebook isn’t a fun place to be anymore. I felt like I was swimming in a sea of endless memes’ and debate, & I’m most likely boring them with endless baby photos! I need a break. Call me apathetic if you like but right now I need to be in my bubble.

A friend got in touch with me after I made decision to leave, telling me she completely understood my reasons & how she was reverting back to letter writing. She said,

We know what people have had for their dinner yet not how they feel or what they’re thinking. There is no investment in friendship anymore and the simple yet meaningful art of correspondence is lost.

I couldn’t agree more! I feel sad that I’ve friends/family close by & yet because of the ease of Facebook, there is little real connection outside of it. It gets me down. I’ve deactivated for now, I need to download my content & then close it properly. I will miss many friends I’ve made & the instant fix of catching up, but hopefully we shall stay in touch via other means.

2) Realisations – Another friend sent me a photograph of her 4th baby breastfeeding. She told me that it was because of me, & my support that this time she had managed to succeed. Made me cry! I didn’t realise I’d had such an impact on someone in this way. It isn’t often someone tells you something like this, I don’t even know how I helped, but it has made me smile. Of course, we became friends properly via Facebook which is why the above decision has been hard, but I’m adamant that we will stay in touch.

3) Baby giggles Sylvie has really started doing little chuckles now! She did one a couple of weeks or so ago but I think it was a fluke… But today she’s been beaming & doing little chuckles when I blow raspberries in her neck! She’s wonderful ๐Ÿ™‚

4) Upcoming birthday – my third son turns four next week! We’ve ordered a couple of presents, however money is tight so I’m hoping he will love the bits we have chosen. Hoping to have enough dosh to take him to a play place, or if not the local park to play. A friend suggested maybe meeting one day at RAF Cosford, so might look into this.

5) Bed! early night tonight, I came up when the little ones went to sleep. My chap hasn’t been very well the last two days, so going to snuggle & look after him, & watch a DVD perhaps. My little girl is right next to me too… Bliss!

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Crease-free clothes & Crusts…

My five for today…

1) Food success – My 3 year old ate crusts. He normally eats a mouthful from the middle! Sandwich of choice was houmous & cheddar on seeded batch.

2) Soldiering on & doing a previously hated chore – I am up to my eyeballs in stinking cold, ribs hurt to breath in & sneezing isn’t much fun…but, I’ve managed to achieve some ironing. Never used to do ironing as life is too short to worry about a few creases, but I started doing it in a bid to keep on top of laundry, check what the clothes we wear are like so I can charity/chuck any out; & I discovered much to my horror that ironed clothes look nicer! ๐Ÿ˜‰

3) Text convos with a friend – it’s nice to have a conversation, even if it’s via text, with a person that doesn’t scream “mama mama” right in your face or demand you wipe their bottom or sit screeching at you for no reason other than they appear to feel like mentally torturing you. Sometimes, it’s quite lonely being a busy mum of young children. You rarely get out the house, even when you do, it’s virtually impossible to maintain a conversation that isn’t interspersed with “please stop hitting your brother, “we don’t like it when you use those words…”, “could you let me talk please? I’m trying to have a conversation here…”, “The baby doesn’t like being poked in her eye, could you stop it please?”, “Please don’t touch that, put it down, do not break it… Oh too late!”. I am supposed to be positive here aren’t I? Well, I do love them despite this so I guess that will do! ๐Ÿ˜‰ I think it’s really hard sometimes trying to make time for friends, with such busy lives & loads of children, but it’s something I want to try and do more.

4) Bank holidays I realised only yesterday that it’s bank holidays coming up & that means my chap is home. We are like ships in the night at the moment, passing each other in the house, barely muttering as we don’t get time to talk. I miss him being here sometimes, & he helps a lot. So I’m looking forward to Thursday night when he comes in from work, ready for a long weekend with family.

5) Sun – it is shining, snow is blinding but the sun is out & that always makes me feel happier!